Sunday, June 20, 2021

Diggin' Up Bones (figuratively speaking). Cousins Reunite to Browse Final Resting Places of Ancestors and Kin--Laurean Brooks

 

Last Saturday we had a Cousins' Reunion at J&J Fish House Restaurant in Bolivar Tennessee. Some hadn't seen one another in decades. Although the food was delicious, the memories and tales shared on our kinfolk were priceless.



The funniest stories involved mischievous cousin Alva Webster, who was born in the 1920s. As a boy, he got into his share of mischief. One day when his pa fell asleep on the couch, Alva stuck a firecracker between his toes and lit it. I'd bet Alva wasn't able to sit for a week after that prank.


But that wasn't all. One time during Sunday School, Alva excused himself to use the outhouse. Meandering on the path back to the little church, hundreds of walnuts spread over the ground, caught his eye. He gathered as many as he could in his shirt and and one by one, threw them at the church door, exclaiming when he hit his mark in the middle of the door. The thunking noise alerted Alva's Sunday School teacher. She appeared on the porch, arms folded across her chest, and ordered him inside. When he ignored her, she sat down on the steps, smoothed her long skirt and made herself comfortable. “I'm going to stay right here on these steps and see that you don't throw another walnut,” she declared.


Alva paid her no mind and kept throwing the walnuts. The first one hit the door above the teacher's head, but the second walnut struck the teacher smack in the forehead and knocked her out. I'm sure Alva's pa applied the board of education to the seat of the problem for his unruly son's misdeed.

Cousins Steve, Tim, and Randy, kept us entertained during the meal with their antics and stories. After a couple of hours of getting reacquainted, laughing, and wearing out our welcome at J&J's, our cousin Linda, led the way to one of two cemeteries where our ancestors and relatives had been laid to rest. The first stop was Enon Cemetery, a few miles west, near Hickory Valley.

We lined our cars up behind Cousin Linda's and followed her through the backroads. Our entourage must have been mistaken for a 7-car funeral procession because when we reached a Stop sign miles down the road, as is a Southern custom, the person at the Stop sign to our right stayed put and waved us on. Everyone waved back before making the left turn toward the cemetery. I'll bet they wondered why none of us had our lights on.

My maternal great grandmother, maternal grandmother, and Great Aunt Willie were buried at Enon, a small family cemetery, along with Uncle Bob and Aunt Louise who are cousin Linda's parents. You can't tell much from the picture above, but there are many headstones beyond the gate. 

I have a special memory of Uncle Bob. When my my sister and I were teens he took us to the Bolivar airport outside of town on a Sunday afternoon, to watch the planes take off and land. It was the first time we'd seen this in person, We were fascinated. 



We spent time browsing the graves, noting several of the older tombstones were weathered, chipped, tarnished rendering them illegible. Some of those were just infants while others had lived a long life.



Our next stop was Middleburg Cemetery where my grandfather's folks are buried. The sun pounded down on us and the humidity was high. We found the headstones and took a few pictures, but it was too hot to endure for very long. Unlike the shady Enon Cemetery, Middleburg is much larger and provides no shade except for a group at the south end.

When I read the dash between “Born” and “Died” on each stone, I wondered about the lives of those lying beneath the sod. Was she content in her marriage? What joys did she experience? What sorrows? What were his dreams? Did he ever realize them? Most, if not all of them, lived on a farm at a time when a day's work began at sun-up and ended at sundown. They faced seasons of drought and resulting famine and other years the crops got too much rain. But they plodded on, etching out a living on their farm to provide better lives for their families.

We had a wonderful time last Saturday and are already starting to plan another reunion for next year. Who knows? We may have more humorous stories to tell by then.

Do you have interesting family stories you'd like to share? Please Share them in the comments. We love to hear them here at Smart Girls Read Romance. 

Meanwhile if you are look for a romance that will also tickle the funny bone, you've come to the right place. RYAN'S RECKLESS BRIDE just released. It's Book #8 in the Matchmaker's Mix-Up series where a cat dumps a box of matchmaking files and scatters them to the wind. 

Is it possible to correct the mistake by putting the correct brides with the suitable groom. You decide. And have fun reading all 12 books in the series. Pssst! More books to come. 

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Ryan's Reckless Bride--Can an impulsive young woman find happiness with a cowboy who seeks a responsible, serious-minded bride?  Enjoy the fun. 


Wednesday, June 16, 2021

2 Houses 2 Confusing by @JoanReeves #SmartGirlsReadRomance

Unlike Tatiana Alden, the heroine of Deceptively Yours, my latest book, I'm often in a state of confusion because of our 2 houses.

 You see, we have a house in Houston and a house in the country where we go to escape the big city rat race.

The problem arises when we start looking for something and realize it's at the other house. It's funny because it seems no matter what that item might be, it will always be at the "other" house.

In Houston, and we want to make homemade ice cream, but the freezer is at the other house.

In the country, and we want to make flat iron steak, but the big skillet is at the other house.

Then there's the whole "what did we need to pick up at the supermarket" situation. Since our country house isn't convenient to stores, we end up buying extra soap or TP or pasta, etc. only to realize when we get to the country that the pantry is overflowing with whatever we bought.

Fiction Beats Real Life

I love writing books where the heroine isn't afflicted with the dumb problems I face. The best thing about fiiction is that I can make the characters get the happily ever after they earn through overcoming their emotional baggage and the other obstacles to happiness.

In Deceptively Yours, Tatiana lives most of the year in Nebraska and visits Fair Winds, the house at Last Chance Beach, a couple of times a year. 

She's smart enough to bring household essentials to get her through the first night.

Then she can place an order for groceries at Last Chance Market after she arrives. She's organized, smart, and efficient—until her hero barges into her life and brings chaos.

Then there's that nameless stalker who's after her. When push comes to shove, Tatiiana will fight for her life and for the man she loves.

If you're looking for a steamy Romantic Suspense, try Deceptively Yours. Still at the new release price of 99¢!

Deceptively Yours is the first book in the Last Chance Beach Romance line.  You'll find a new Last Chance Beach Romance novel every 6-8 weeks.

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Monday, June 14, 2021

Ready to Take on the World? By Bea Tifton

The Pandemic is waning. Lockdowns have ceased, mask mandates have been lifted, and people are gathering again. Hurray! Whoo hoo! You can’t wait to go back to your cubicle in a crowded office, attend festivals and have your face painted, or eat at restaurants with the buzz of voices echoing through a full house. Or can you…

When the mask update was lifted, I had friends who jubilantly rushed headlong into frenetic activities, going out to dinner, to movies, to big box stores, even to water parks. My friends at church are starting to ask me when I’m coming back. Committees are restarting. Zoom is being replaced by in person meetings for business or leisure. But my reentry has been a bit slow. 

It’s not only me. 49% of Americans report some measure of reentry anxiety. Many of us lost people we love, some of us lost our jobs and had to reinvent ourselves, and some people just got used to staying home.

Reentry anxiety people fall into two groups, generally speaking. One group is still afraid of catching or transmitting the coronavirus, and the other group is experiencing social anxiety and is afraid their social skills may be too rusty. People who are introverts experienced the lockdowns differently. With no demands to “People” and to make small talk, or to leave the house frequently, etc.  some people felt, well, a secret sigh of relief.

I don’t mean to downplay the terrible toll the pandemic played on our country, indeed, on our world. I lost extended family members, I had people I loved pass away from non-virus causes and could not attend their funerals, and I nearly lost my mother from complications of her own bout with the virus—twice. But I’m talking about just the day to day life changes. Suddenly, there were no business meetings, no committees, and no guilt for just wanting to stay home.

For those suffering from reentry anxiety, mental health professionals have offered some positive steps to take. 

1.  Take small steps, not giant leaps. If you know you have to go back to the office, drive past your workplace and imagine going in. Go to a restaurant on a night that won’t be as crowded. Shop at a small store for a few things before returning to the big box stores. Have a buddy system with someone you love so you can mutually support one another.

2. Give yourself permission to feel this way. Emotions are not right or wrong. It’s how one deals with them that can be positive or problematic. We’ve all experienced trauma to some degree in the last year and a half. We lost touch with friends, lost people to the virus, lost jobs or job status, and it’s okay to feel the effects.

3. Make a list of things you would love to do now that the lockdowns and travel restrictions are lifted. It doesn’t have to be a big trip around the world. Maybe a day trip or just a trip to your favorite store to see all the new seasonal merchandise. Things that make you happy or bring you joy, no matter how small.

4. Get help if you need it. Many people feel guilty or weak if they seek the advice and support of a mental health professional. Actually, wanting to overcome and work through obstacles  is the strong move, and good for you for taking that step. 

 I love staying at home. I am an introvert, like many writers. But I’ve missed my loved ones and just the normalcy of running to the store for a gallon of milk. We can do this. Good on us!

Have you experienced any reentry anxiety? Leave a comment below.