Showing posts with label stress. Show all posts
Showing posts with label stress. Show all posts

Thursday, April 23, 2026

PRODUCTIVITY IS NOT A SYNONYM FOR HAPPINESS

    Have you recently discovered that having a stress ball isn't for throwing at people who stress you out? 

Everyone has stress. It's a response to challenges in life. And let's face it, a life without challenges would be dreary and boring.

If you’re a writer, stress manifests itself when you write and when you don’t. If the writing flows, we say we’re in the zone. When it stops, we agonize over how to kick-start ourselves. When we end a piece, we fuss over the editing process. And when we’re finally finished with it, we ponder whether our creation is worthy enough, then lapse into the insecurity of “what will we write next”?

I’ve decided, after a half-dozen books, there is no happy medium to getting the right balance in life that will completely relieve stress levels. But there are small things that everyone who is stressed can do to ease  anxieties.

We all know we have to eat healthy and exercise, but there are other things to consider. One is to stay as organized as possible, and simplify routines, commitments, and clutter. A messy desk doesn’t cause us stress. Not finding the papers we need which are buried in a chaotic heap on our desks causes us to stress.

We also need to let go of multi-tasking constantly and slow down. We’re in a society that says we can do it all. We want to accomplish a task, but not upset our family’s routine or our commitments to others, so we rush, rush, rush. Maybe it’s time to go back to the single task philosophy our parents used. Maybe it’s time to streamline our time and eliminate unnecessary commitments. Instead of the mental “to do” list which stretches for miles in our mind, it’s time to write down a realistic “to do” list and only put down five essential tasks we want to complete in a given time.                                                                                             
And lastly, here is my favorite de-stress idea. I’m giving myself permission to have free time for myself—whether it’s to do a hobby, read, travel, or just take time off from writing without guilt. Life doesn’t have to be about always accomplishing things—always placing the next word on the page or doing the next to-do chore. After all, productivity has never been a synonym for happiness.

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Thursday, March 23, 2023

STRESSED AND ANXIOUS? Join the club!

 by Judy Ann Davis

Stressed and anxious? Join the club. I’ve spoken with many writers about feeling stressed or anxious while doing the thing they love the most—writing.

Sometimes I feel like I jumped on a merry-go-round that doesn’t stop to let the riders hop off. And, if you’re holding down another job, or involved in any other family- or community-related activities, the anxiety only grows.         

So where did we go off the rails? Name your spot. First, as writers, we never stop thinking about writing. We agonize over the small details and the development of characters, setting, and plot as we labor over a current unfinished work. And, as we move long this fickle journey, a little voice in our head inevitably pops up to remind us not to forget to advertise and interact on social media. So, off we go to tweet, blog, and post on Facebook and Instagram and other sites.

I’m currently in the process of selling our condo where we winter in Florida. Every drawer, every closet, every storage space has to be cleaned and emptied. Belongings, what I call stuff,  need to be removed, packed, given or thrown away. Moving is tiring on the body and the mind. It’s especially unnerving when you have to keep every room neat and tidy in the process as realtors show your condo to potential buyers.

So how can a person de-stress? Through self-care. We need to take time for ourselves, be kind to ourselves. I discovered that doing one small thing allows me to rejuvenate myself. I take time to listen to music, read a chapter in a book, call a friend, or grab a piece of chocolate and savor it, to name a few. It allows me not only to revitalize myself, but also to embrace the joy of the moment. Finally, it reaffirms my life’s mantra: Never let anyone (or in this case anything) steal your joy.”    

 Wishing all an early Happy Easter with lots and lots of chocolate!  

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Tuesday, May 30, 2017

Beating Stress by Suzanne Rossi

Hi everyone.

Stress. We all live with it on a daily basis. Whether it's something as simple and annoying as waiting for a slow moving freight to clear the tracks or being stuck on "hold" for what seems like forever when trying to complain to the your credit card company, it's there. We deal with it. Authors go through stress while on deadline. And if we aren't on deadline, we're wondering how to make our characters more interesting or how to give the plot a new twist. Stress.

However, too much stress can spell trouble for our bodies. When we hit overload, some obscure hormone kicks in and we end up in the old fight or flight syndrome. We might not recognize it, but it's there. The results can be detrimental to your health. Chronic stress can lead to overeating, sleep deprivation, and anxiety. Too much of any of these could bring on excessive alcohol consumption and depression. Not good.

However, there are things you can do to control your stress levels.

Pets. Dogs, cats--it doesn't matter. Walk or play with them daily. Talk to them. I did this to my late Liza whenever I had a plot problem. She'd look at me as if knowing what I was talking about. She probably didn't, but it made me feel better. If nothing else, just sit, hold, and stoke them. Pets love it and it won't do you any harm either.

Exercise. Yeah, I know. It's a bummer, but even if you just walk around the block, it releases energy that might otherwise be turned inward to become anxiety. I recently joined a gym and work out three mornings a week. It only takes an hour or so and I always feel better.

Make a weekly "to-do" list and tick off items one by one. The laundry is piling up? Run a couple of loads, then take the time to fold and put it away. Sweep or mop the floors. Keep busy until you can concentrate on other more important tasks.

Avoid overuse of the computer or cell phone. Do you really have to be online checking Facebook, tweeting, Instagramming, Snapchatting, or anything else every hour on the hour? I don't own a smart phone. I make sure I turn off my computer by six o'clock in the evening. That leaves time for family interaction.

Certain foods can also help you beat, or at least control, stress levels.

Nuts. They contain magnesium which helps us with our coping mechanisms. Same with leafy green vegetables.

Vitamin C. This can be found in most fruits, especially citrus. If you don't have a ready supply of fresh fruit nearby, go for a supplement. Can't hurt.

Fish oil. Those omega-3 oils found in many fish, especially salmon, can reduce stress. Don't care for fish? Once again, a supplement will do. I gave my dogs fish oil capsules once a day. Don't know if it did anything for their stress levels, but their coats were fabulous.

And finally, chocolate. Eating a small amount of chocolate every day does wonders reducing stress, but then any author alive could tell you that. The problem is keeping the portion to a "small amount." I guess that's all a matter of perspective.

Naturally, before beginning any new diet or exercise routine, talk to your doctor. Better safe than sorry.

So, there it is. Stress. I'm feeling it right now, so please excuse me while I go wolf down a Snickers bar as I walk around the block minus my computer and mentally petting a dog.

See you all next month.

Suzanne Rossi

Sunday, April 10, 2016

Refilling the Inspirational Cup

By Susan Sheehey

Stress took its toll on me over the last six weeks. Personal life with children, health insurance, school battles, and finances buried me under a Himalayan-sized oppressive force. Which of course then impacted my immune system, and I caught what my beloved 2-year-old brought home from daycare. I’m still trying to get over it, 3 weeks later.
Flying kites

So the trip we took to Washington State couldn’t have come at a more needed time. Fast forward the plane trip and car ride to my husband’s uncle’s place on the eastern side of the Cascades (since no one
East Wenatchee, Columbia River
wants to hear about an airsick autistic 7-year-old, especially not the flight attendants or the other passengers), it was a fantastic week. Up in the mountains, the view was spectacular. Literally, woke up to the hillsides covered with apple orchards and the Columbia River cutting through the valley- more than just a relaxing retreat. It was a major relief. The weather was beyond gorgeous. 70 degrees, partly sunny, nice breeze all day, and an entire 10-acres for my boys to play on without me worrying about a car running them over, or them getting snatched by sick kidnappers. They spent most of their time by the koi pond throwing rocks into the water, or feeding the animals (pigs, chickens, and 6 beautiful peacocks). Literally, they ran around 10 acres for 6 days, and I wasn’t the helicopter parent I’ve grown into being.
My toddler throwing rocks into the pond
The house was kid-proofed, and all the fresh air made my children pass out all night.
I detached my mind from everything, including my writing. A first for me.
We finished off the trip with an afternoon in downtown Seattle, with of course the obligatory visit to the Space Needle. (Yes, that's my son with the Iron Man helmet, he wore it everywhere). My boys
Caden & Daddy atop the Space Needle
loved it.
I’ve come back and the muse is swirling. Chomping at the bit to write. It’s a glorious feeling. The inspirational cup of my creative conscious has been refilled.
What do you do to de-stress? What causes you the most anxiety? How often do you find yourself needing to refill your spiritual cup?


Susan Sheehey writes contemporary romance, romantic suspense and women's fiction. She lives and laughs in Texas with her husband and two boys. Water plays a crucial element in all of her stories, and she's a huge advocate for Autism Awareness. April is World Autism Awareness month, so please take the time to be aware and accepting of those on the Autism Spectrum. Follow Susan at
www.SusanSheehey.com, as well as Facebook, and Twitter. If you're in Las Vegas from April 13-17th, she'll be at the RT Convention at the Rio All Suites Hotel at the large book signing. Come see me!