I thought long and hard about my first post for this group
and then decided on one that influenced my outcome in life and explains a little
about how I got here today.
“Unexpected Kindness is the most powerful, least costly,
and most underrated agent of human change” ~Bob Kerrey
I am a huge proponent of kindness, both planned and unexpected.
I can only wish more people in the world felt the same. Today though, I want to
talk about unexpected kindness. The kindness that is given to perhaps a total
stranger with no benefits for yourself.
I got married when I was sixteen and dropped out of school
before end of tenth grade to start a family. I know this sounds crazy today but
at the time, it wasn’t so much. My own Mother married at 15 and then there was
the belief that if you weren’t married by X (usually early twenties), you were
destined to be an old maid. I digress.
I always knew I was a fast learner and that was enhanced by my
insatiable curiosity of the world. However, when I went for my first job
interview, I was told I needed a high school diploma. My friends had graduated
by then so I took my GED. I was scared and didn’t know what to expect but the
kind man at the learning center gave me my test and I left. When the results
came in, I was called to come back to the site and get the results. I think this
was not common. They were usually mailed.
The gentleman, Mr. Jackson, called me into the room and told
me I scored very high on the test and that I should take some CLEP test and go
to college. I shyly admitted I wanted to go to college but didn’t have any idea
how to do it or what a CLEP test was. He explained it was a college level
placement exam that gave you credits if you passed. He also told me if I didn’t
do it for me, I should do it for my son.
After his motivational pep talk, I took my Mama’s Psychology
text book from her Highschool correspondence course and read it then went to
take the test. I also took the test for two semesters of English. I passed the
English and lacked one point on the Psychology. Later when I talked to the
college entrance advisor, he didn’t make me take any of the college entrance
exams or prerequisites because I had passed a CLEP test. I went on to finish a
bachelors degree and later a masters. My daughter saw how education benefited
me and got her masters as well. We will see if this cycle continues with her
children.
I can honestly say if Mr. Jackson hadn’t lit that fire in
me, I wouldn’t have had the courage or confidence to go to college but that one
act of kindness, encouraging a young mother to continue her education- made a
huge impact in my life.
Now to my second story, how I got here. I have wanted to be
a writer all of my life and thus, have been working on one book or another for
forty years. After I moved to Fort Worth, I was telling my cousin about it and
she said, I have someone I want you to meet so she took me to this lady’s house.
I will not name her but if she chooses to self-disclose, that’s great. I walked
in with a few ideas and walked out with a rough outline for a novel and a lot
of encouragement.
I wrote diligently
for the first year between my corporate job and my small sewing business and
then lost confidence in my abilities. I spent several months listening to hours
and hours of all sorts of books. I listen during my three plus hours a day commute
to my day job. What I realized though is that I may not be on the best seller’s
list but there are books out there for everyone and that mine will fit
somewhere.
So, I got back on the computer and finished the book. This
lady, now my mentor, kindly read, critiqued and offered suggestions, even
though she was in the midst of writing her own books. Thanks to some more help,
I finally published my book in early November.
Now, this is a great story in itself, how this once stranger
showed me what to do and encouraged me to write my novel, but it’s not the end.
My neighbor messaged me and said, I have been taking all
these photographs from my recliner and have a collection I want to print but no
publisher has taken me and asked about my publisher. I told him I self-
published. Three weeks later, he texted back to tell me he self-published his
photo book and also a booklet of stories his Grandpa told…still not the end.
My cousin has a novel she worked on twenty years ago that
was accepted by a publisher but life got in the way. She said, you did it, I
think I will publish mine too. She is now at 200 pages and on rewrites.
A friend messaged me and said, I have two novels I have been
trying to get published and have to keep rewriting them for the publisher,
maybe I will self-publish too.
I have at least six other friends, family and coworkers who
were inspired my publishing and now are motivated to do the same.
This unexpected act of kindness to me has touched many lives
and created a ripple effect of encouragement and possibility.
“Do things for people, not
because of who they are or what they do, but because of who you are.” ~ Harold
S Kushner
So, as we go forward into the
holiday season, be kind and remember, you never know whose life you may change
and in what way just through simple words of encouragement or unexpected acts
of kindness.
I would love to hear how
unexpected acts of kindness have impacted your life- Please comment below.
