Long gone are the days of looking for forward to the event
of Christmas. It seems like most of the joy left my home with my children. I
love the season of giving and family and coming together, but that special
magic that only happens at Christmas has been a bit elusive in the past years,
to the point that the whole business of decorating and finding the right gift is
exhausting. Don’t misunderstand, I am no Scrooge, but not exactly the bearer of
Christmas joy either.
I have mentioned on my posts before that I sew and one of the things, I don’t do a lot of, but brings me a significant amount of joy, is making memory items from clothes of loved ones. I have made bears and fox and bags and even a cat. I don’t really have time to do these and don’t advertise, but occasionally someone will hear about me, and I rarely refuse. It is my introverted way of bringing comfort to the grieving family without commitment.
This year, my daughter saw a post on a social media Mom’s page, asking if anyone had experience in repairing memory bears. My daughter, only seeing the memory bear part, volunteered me. I am beyond blessed and sometimes frustrated that both she and her child seem to think Mama C can fix or make anything when it comes to sewing.
I got the woman’s information, and we chatted a bit. Her
grown son was off to college and was struggling with being away in his new environment.
The only thing he asked for this season was for his childhood bears, Bear and Other
Bear to be repaired.
The woman delivered the bears and all I could do was bite my
lip and think to myself, this would require a miracle. She handed me two small
brown, near faceless bundles and explained to me how she held one of them while
she was in labor with her now grown son and that he loved the bear so much; they had
to find another one because it was wearing out. She asked how much I would
charge, and I told her I wasn’t sure what I could do and that there would be no cost.
The first thing I did was look up the well-loved bears to see what the original state should look like and found, to my shock, that they were originally white. I picked up one of them and inspected it closer and wondered what I had gotten myself into and how much I could do to return them to their actual youth and doing what I always do when in doubt- I jumped in started working.
Next, I made a bath of warm soapy water with a little oxy
clean and let them swim for a while. That didn’t do a lot, so I sprayed them
with an oxygen based cleaner and a miracle began to occur. I rinsed them well
and put them between a towel and squeezed out the water and let them dry.
I used a wire dog brush and gently brushed them out. They really had fur, after all, at least a little. I had to be careful, because they were pretty fragile. Then, I fattened them up with fluff and restitched the many holes and sewed their heads back on.
I used oil-based paint pens to paint the eyes and even added
that special white dot for the gleam. It was the nose that did it, though, that
brought the bears to life and gave them back their personality.
As a side note, I sent a photo to my daughter as I was
repairing them, and she asked if I had changed out the fabric on them.
The last time I saw them, they were neatly tucked in a box awaiting pickup, so I didn’t get to see them off. I thought nothing more about them until Christmas eve when I got the best gift ever: an emotion video of the young man opening his Bear and Other Bear and the sweet and sentimental reaction of love at the realization they were his beloved bears.
There is no price you can put on a gift like this, to bring
someone joy over things thought lost or returning a childhood memory.
I have watched the video several times and reflected on all
the things learned:
It is never too late to reinvent yourself.
Someone loves you and thinks you are special, regardless of your
external looks.
We should all be lucky enough to
show the wear and tear of constant love.
Sometimes, someone believing in
you is all it takes for a miracle to occur.
As writers, we have the ability to provide joy in every
story through the recreation of memories and by providing much needed escape in
this sometimes-crazy world.
Here’s to wishing you a wonderful 2022.
I can't tell you how lovely this is, but you already know. I understand about not feeling the same at holiday--I'm kind of in the same place. But what a wonderful gift you both gave and got. Not to mention, you've sure made my day just reading about it! Blessed New Year, Sherri, and thanks.
ReplyDeleteThank you for reading Liz- I would love to show the video but respect his privacy- it was so touching - to watch him open the package then look at their feet where the year was written- then hands in face, then teared up with a broken "thank you Mom"
DeleteYou did a wonderful thing. I didn't play with dolls growing up. I had one soft plastic doll, Sleep Baby. I think I wore three out before I stopped sleeping with her.
ReplyDeleteThank you- It benefitted me as much as him though- I still have my teddy bear Twinkie from when I was 5 or 6 - I guess I should give him a face lift like the others.
DeleteYou are such a wonderfully kind and creative person, Sherri. You are someone who leaves a trail of good deeds and lovely actions wherever you go. Thank you for sharing this story. This past Christmas was less than magical--even though I am usually a nut about Christmas. I'm so pleased you shared this story today!
ReplyDeleteThank you, Caroline- I am convinced, next Christmas will be better for all of us!
ReplyDeleteI love this story! You are so talented and creative.
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